New Years Resolutions

2017 in Review & My 2018 Goals

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Dress | Boots (sold out – similar) | Bag | Lipstick in “Ashton” | Earrings

Hey! What’s up, it’s been a while!

When I sat down to write this “2017 in Review” post, I found myself continually pushing it off. I couldn’t figure out why that was for a while, but then realized it was because last year was a year of extremely high highs and extremely low lows for me. It was a year that started out not-so-great but ended wonderfully. And on top of it, after recovering from my cold last week, I then got the stomach flu 😒! Still finding the post daunting even after recovering late last week, I realized this past weekend that writing this post could be more of a cathartic experience. An experience to make peace with what happened in the last year, let it go and officially move on.

So, let’s recap what happened in 2017 to make it such a whirlwind year, and at the end I’m detailing my goals for 2018.

The beginning of 2017 was a very trying time for me. I was having difficulty in my relationships with a few people who were very close to me. It had me questioning a lot about what I thought I knew and what I valued in my relationships with those around me. These relationships didn’t start to heal until mid-Summer, so you can imagine it all weighed heavily on me for the beginning part of the year.

Having dealt with anxiety as a teen and having gone to therapy for it, I was acutely aware of how this situation was affecting me.  It delayed my getting my blog up and running, hanging out with those I loved, and doing my typical daily activities because I was riddled with anxiety regarding this situation. It got so bad that I even went to the doctor to get an EKG because my heart rate was SO out of control I thought I had an actual condition (I don’t). That is how bad it got, you guys! I literally was making myself physically ill over what was going on, and it showed.

I’m not going to go into further detail regarding this exact situation because even if I’m comfortable being honest with you all, it’s not my place to air other people’s “dirty laundry” out for the world to see. And, in my opinion, it’s more important to know how this situation affected me and how I dealt with it anyway (v. the gritty details of who/what/where/when).

Funny enough, this extremely tough period also led to a time of tremendous personal growth. I, somewhat unconsciously, made 2017 my year of self-reflection and change. After getting the perfectly normal EKG results back, I talked to my internist on why my resting heart rate was higher than it typically is for someone of my petite stature. He told me some people are simply built for “fight or flight,” and I was one of them. When I heard this last Spring, I wrote it off and was just thankful that I didn’t have a heart condition! But, after focusing more on my personal development in the last 6 months, I’ve realized how acutely his words describe many situations throughout my life not just the physiological.

Growing up, if I encountered a difficult situation I either fought it, fled or did both to my own detriment. This is true literally and mentally. I like to think of it as an inherent coping mechanism I utilized when I was faced with unpleasant situations like arguments with friends, family or adapting to difficult change. And, it wasn’t until I did some serious self-reflection and development over the last 6 months (for purposes of this blog no less) that I realized this about myself. Through things like daily meditation, prayer (yes, prayer you read that right!) and journaling, I’ve been able to develop this sort of “birds-eye” perspective of who I am now v. who I was then. Sure, I’m not the only one to blame for drama that’s happened in my past, but it takes two. And before, I wasn’t being completely honest with myself about my role in what went wrong in many situations in my past.

Am I changed person from back in the day? Uh, absolutely! I’m a far cry from who I was in the past, and being able to have this larger perspective about myself allows me to fully move past many things that I think were unconsciously holding me back. Instances where I’ve exhibited this extreme “fight or flight” behavior were already fewer and further between because, you know, you grow up and realize it’s not always appropriate to act like that! But, acknowledging that this is something that’s quite literally part of who I am, allows me to completely eradicate it from my life. It’s always good to have a certain amount of fight/flight in you, but not when it does more harm than good.

So, as 2017 came to a close, I realized how far I had come from the beginning part of the year when I wasn’t able to gain this level of perspective to where I am now. As much as I’m happy to shut the door on the negative parts of 2017, I’m intensely grateful for what happened. That may sound weird, but that situation taught me a lot about what I value in relationships with those around me, who I want to be in my life and most importantly, who I am and where I want to be. I feel that 2018 will be another year of tremendous personal and professional growth for me, even more than the last. And I’m looking forward to a completely positive year with MORE highs and few lows!


Now, because I’m not one for getting down-and-out, I’d like to end this post discussing what made 2017 one of the best years of my life.

This year, Kevin and I grew closer than we’ve ever been. He became a source of strength for me to lean on during the hard times and provided me unwavering support. We really became a team and, in the later part of the year, focused on experiences we could create with each other. We started with our 10-day long road trip in June to explore Charleston, Savannah, the Appalachians, and I met Kevin’s Grandpa in Florida. He’s in his 90’s, so was unable to make it to our wedding, and it was really special to be able to meet him! We then spent a few days with my in-laws in Florida. Mid-Summer, we journeyed to Indianapolis to see my Aunts and found out that Kevin got a phone interview with his now employer on the ride down!

We officially left our old jobs at the end of August and moved to Minneapolis in September. Kevin began work as an internal auditor for CHS Inc, and I started blogging full time (eeek!). Given this is already a long post, I’ll spare you most of the details on this move, but you can find them here. We’ve been loving the Cities, and, although it’s SUPER cold, I can’t imagine living anywhere else! We’ve started making friends here (making friends as an adult is HARD!) and have been loving that we are closer to my sister’s family! And, to top it off, one of my best friends got engaged to her boyfriend of 8 years, and I saw Katy Perry with my other bestie 😍

And last, but certainly not least, I started my blog and Instagram account in 2017 and was able to reconnect with multiple passions. As I’ve discussed before, writing and fashion/beauty have been lifelong passions of mine. And, as soon as I launched the blog in June, it really felt like everything in life just fell into place the way it was always meant to be. There is no better feeling than waking up knowing I’m spending the day doing what I love and sharing that passion to better the lives of others around me. Pursuing something I love has truly taught me that you cannot make others happy unless you are genuinely happy from within.

I want to end this extremely long post (sorry, but did you expect anything else? 😋), with a huge THANK YOU to all of you readers/followers who have supported me throughout the last year. Your support literally means the world to me, and you have helped me through this year more than you’ll ever know! Your support, quite literally, has allowed me to pursue a dream life and allows me to feel more and more fulfilled every day. It’s been one helluva journey so far, and I’m SO EXCITED to see where this new year will lead us (as in me, my blog and all of you along for the ride!).

Before I get to my personal and professional goals for 2018, I have some blog updates! There will be no Wednesday post this week. My regular post will go up on Friday and then next week we will (finally) resume our normal schedule. I’m taking the next few days to make some updates to my site like updating my top bar (where it shows “About” “Shop” etc) and general “sprucing” up! In addition, in line with requests I’ve gotten from all of you, I will be working in posts on productivity, fitness and my beauty regime for my hair throughout this month and early next! If you ever have content you want to see, please do not hesitate to reach out to me (lomeyerblog@gmail.com) . I sit down to write and create every day for you all and what you want is most important to me!


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Now on to those 2018 Goals. Here are a few of my personal and professional goals for 2018 –

PROFESSIONAL GOALS

-Plan my social media to be more consistent with it (it’s really been ALL over the place lately)

-Step outside my comfort zone, forge partnerships with new brands and network with those in my area

-Reach 1K email subscribers! (go ahead and subscribe!!)

-Increase my visibility across all platforms

PERSONAL GOALS

-Learn to live outside “fight or flight” mode for good

-read a new novel every month (this is motivation to chill out more and take a break from screen time/mindless TV!)

-make healthy living a priority (for me, this means little to no dairy 😭 and a more consistent exercise regimen)

-Spend more time cultivating relationships with those I love

-Have a “me” date once a week


What are some of your goals for 2018? If you need some guidance on how to tackle your goals or want insight on how I’m going to tackle mine, check out my previous post on goal-setting.

Stay tuned for a new post on Friday and be sure to follow me on social media as those channels will be updated daily!

xoxo

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Goal Setting for the New Year

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I hope everyone had a fabulous holiday and got to enjoy time with friends and family! We got back to the Cities in the evening on Tuesday, and I spent most of yesterday recuperating from a hectic few days! Last week, I took an Instagram poll on some New Year’s content. A TON of you wanted to see a post on goal setting tips and, given the New Year is only a few days away, I figured this would be the perfect time to work that in.

How many times have you set a goal for the New Year and forgotten about it two weeks later? Whether it’s something big like working out daily or something smaller like breaking a minor habit, we’re all guilty of setting goals and failing to achieve them. I’m no expert on goal setting, but working on the blog over the last year has certainly taught me a thing or two about turning dreams into realities. And, there are definitely things to do and pitfalls that you must avoid.


I. Keep Your Goals Attainable with the End in Mind

Too often, I find myself setting lofty, unattainable goals because I’m trying to rush to a particular end. However, all good things take time. When setting a particular goal, it’s important to know where you want to be at the end of the road. But, it’s also important to keep small, attainable goals along the way because to get to your “end goal” you’ll often have to achieve smaller mile-stones. Think of these mile-stones as “mini-goals” that should be celebrated when you achieve them that way you keep yourself motivated to push toward the end.

Let’s take working out as a common example. Often times, people start working out with a goal of looking great in their bikini by summer. However, you can’t expect to work out for 2-3 weeks and instantly have that “bikini” body. If you only have your bikini body in mind, your goal can often seem unattainable and too far out of reach. This can make you feel discouraged and even cause you to give up your goal in the first place. However, if you instead start with having a smaller goal of eating a healthier meal daily and increasing your workouts by 10 minutes a week, you have a much more attainable goal in the interim. Your end goal can still be that bikini body, but in the mean time, you can celebrate your weekly achievements. Celebrating these mini-achievements will help you feel like you’re progressing forward instead of staying stagnant.

II.  Reward Your Achievements

On that same note, it’s very important to celebrate big and small achievements. I once had a girlfriend who had a goal of working out more consistently. If she worked out X times a week for two weeks, she was able to buy whatever nail polish color she wanted. This reward wasn’t something crazy expensive but was something she probably wouldn’t have purchased otherwise. It also wasn’t something unhealthy that would’ve jeopardized her hard work.

It’s important to reward your achievements weekly or semi-weekly with things that actually mean something to you. That way you have incentive to keep moving forward. Working toward a bikini body may be enough to keep you motivated; however, it’s nice to have something more immediate and tangible on those days when you need that extra push. I often keep my “prizes” below $10-20 and will go with something I couldn’t justify buying otherwise (like another purse or a new essential oil when I already have 10000).

III. Keep Yourself Accountable

Whether your goal is large or small, it’s important to memorialize your goal. You can do this by telling a loved one about it and having them keep you accountable. Or, you can write down your goal in a journal along with the steps you will take to get there. I personally like writing down my goals. Writing my goals allows me to reflect on where I am in relation to where I want to be. It also allows me to literally write down an appropriate time line for achieving my overall goal and for achieving the stepping stones I need to get there. I can then refer back to this timeline weeks and months down the road to see how I’m doing and where I can improve.

On a daily basis, this accountability comes through in scheduling. Let’s take my blog for example, which I have a number of goals for. I know I’ve said this before, but list-making is a trait I inherited from my mother. So every Sunday, I’ll create a blog and personal “to-do” list. Then I’ll go through and schedule out my entire week including ideas for Instagram posts and what Kev and I will do in the evenings. And I plan literally everything, including my breaks. I schedule it all in my iCal and create alerts when the next task comes up so I don’t have to worry about staying on track. My phone just beeps when it’s time to move on.  I usually reserve some time at the end of the week to catch up on anything I wasn’t able to finish during the week.

Blocking time helps me stay motivated and productive. On the days where I happen to not have my schedule prepped, I am ALL over the place and don’t get a lot done. Find a time that allows you to work toward your goals and stick to it without any interruptions! Even 20 minutes a day can help you a lot in the long-run!


These are my three main tips when it comes to goal setting for the New Year. Are there any particular goals you’re looking to aheive in 2018? Any you may revisit from 2017?

The 2017 Year in Review post will be coming over the weekend, and we’ll be back to more fashion/beauty posts next week!

Have a great day everyone!

xoxo

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