Today is the fourth post in our wedding series. Like I said on Monday, this is our anniversary week (do we get a full week? lol), and I thought it might be helpful to share some life tips from one former bride! As I’ve discussed numerous times before both here and on Instagram, to say I struggle with anxiety is somewhat of an understatement. So, when you give me a full time job + a wedding to plan, it’s kind of a recipe for insanity! I’ve had several people mention what a bummer it is I didn’t start my blog while wedding planning. And, to be honest, I’m happy I didn’t because I would actually have been a crazy person. Kudos to you ladies that can do it all!
But, being the anxious person I am, I developed a few ways to handle the stress of wedding planning. From scrambling to find vendors, find money or even feeling like you need to please multiple people when you really want everything to be your way, weddings can get very overwhelming! There are a few things I’ve done, or wish I had done, to ease the stress of planning and make it more fun. I’m sharing some of those below!
1. Dedicate Me Time:
I’ve discussed this SO many times before, but one of the best things you can do to ease the insanity of wedding planning is to dedicate time for yourself up front. I’m sure you’re thinking, “but what about all of those other items on my to-do list?!” Well, those can wait. If you’re not feeling recharged, you’re not going to enjoy the process. Self care is tantamount to wedding planning and for really anything in life!
I like to take a bit of me time every day so I feel refreshed and ready to tackle whatever’s on my schedule! I often do this right when I wake up and when I go to bed. I’ll start by burning a candle or essential oils to create a relaxing environment. Lately, I’ve been loving Cultivated Candle Co’s mason jar candles because they smell amazing and are inexpensive! The company was created by a blogger friend of mine and her partner, so it also feels good to buy from a brand whose story you know! I’m loving their Misted Moss & Monopoly scents right now. I’ll then often write in my gratitude journal and read for a bit. And, most importantly, I’ll do this totally “disconnected” from my phone, computer or others. I find doing this everyday helps me feel ready to take on whatever the day brings!
Like I mentioned in this post, I’m not always a huge fan of exercise especially when it involves cardio! But, I can’t deny that getting a sweat in is a good stress reliever! And, I know most brides are on some sort of workout regime pre-wedding. Lately, I’ve been walking on the treadmill or using the elliptical for 30 minutes in the morning while catching up on emails and messages. This helps me feel productive while still getting a workout in. And, since it’s finally nice out, I’ve taken to going for walks mid-afternoon to recharge and disconnect. Doing both of these helps you get a lot of workout time in the day without feeling like you’re taking a huge portion of your day away from your bride “duties”.
3. Plan the Right Way
Set aside a time of the week where you can plan how you’re going to accomplish your “to-do” items. Sometimes half of the stress and anxiety I felt during planning was the feeling that I was missing something or couldn’t organize my thoughts. Don’t under estimate the calming effect planning can have! I picked up this planner by The Knot while wedding planning and actually had a girlfriend request to borrow it. I called it my “wedding bible”. It has timelines for everything you may need, along with note pages and idea pages! Even though wedding websites like theknot.com have a virtual planner, I found it easier to write everything down and be able to flip back and forth through my timelines. Plus, it’s nice to have everything in one place instead of trying to search the web. I cannot recommend this planner enough!
4. Delegate – Enlist the Help of Friends and Family
Although I act like I did a lot of the planning, in reality, my mom did most of it (along with our wedding planner!). Without her, I don’t know what I would’ve done! Along with my mom, my sister, aunts, bridesmaids and Kev helped too! You may think (or want) to do it all yourself, but you likely can’t. Learn to say “no” when you should and enlist the help of a family member or friend. Most are happy to help make your big day special!
5. A Night Out or a Me-Date
And, sometimes a night away from planning is all you need to de-stress. Whether it’s a night out with your fiancé or your girlfriends, get out and set your stress aside for a different day. And, be sure to have plenty of wine and good food so you can enjoy your night!
Or, extend your me-time into an all night affair & change into your comfiest clothes possible. I’m currently obsessed with this sweatshirt and leggings combo along with my new slippers! And, have a spa night: use your favorite face mask (this is mine), paint your nails, burn candles and watch your favorite movie. If you spend a few solid hours disconnected you will come back feeling so recharged!
I hope you found this helpful! Remember, you can do this! Breathe, relax and recharge!
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